MEANINGS OF CAR DREAMS BY
BABALAWO OBANIFA-Obanifa extreme Documentaries
Babalawo Obanifa will
through the medium of this current work interprets and document in details the
meanings of seeing car in dream from the perspective of African culture and spirituality.
By car within the context of this work I am referring to a road vehicle,
typically with four wheels, powered by an internal combustion engine and able
to carry a small number of people. Car as in the case of any other dream Symbol
can have either positive or negative meaning. The message in car dream can even
be a warning or divine instruction to the dreamer. The meanings to be giving to
car in dream will depend on the contents and context of such dream. Below are interpretation
and some spiritual and physical quick fix to meaning of car in dream.
IF A MARRIED PERSON DREAM
THAT HIS/HER SPOUSE LEAVE OR ABANDONED HIM/HER IN THE CAR IN THE COURSE OF THEIR JOURNEY: It
is not uncommon for married person or an individual in very serious romantic relationship
to have a dream that his/her spouse suddenly left him or her in the car. He/she
she may also see in dream that he/she is with his /her spouse in the car and
his /her spouse disappear. he can not find him in the car again. In any kind of
dream of this nature. The car connotes the life journey in the marriage or the
relationship. If your spouse suddenly leaves in the car in dream and left. It connotes
an imminent divorce or an abrupt end to such relationship due to fight or misunderstanding. If you see that your spouse suddenly disappears
when you are sitting in the car together on a journey. This kind of dream
connote an imminent death of the spouse if proper physical and spiritual
preventive measure are not put n place to avert such.
Quick Fix To this kind of
Dream
There are two method of
fixing this kind of dream. It involves both physical and spiritual measure.
Physical Measure: An individual who have this kind of dream that
his /her left him in the car in the course of a journey, must first take physical
step to manage conflict that may arises in the union. He/she must from that
period on develop the skill of conflict managements. CONFLICT IS AN INEVITABLE PART of
marriage or union. As imperfect people, we will always have differences with
others — and we may not always handle them well. Marriage is a petri dish for
conflict because it forces you to face life’s stresses alongside another
imperfect person.
Interestingly,
research has shown that the frequency of conflict has less
effect on a marriage’s longevity than the quality of those
confrontations. Some studies have even shown that avoiding conflict can be more
damaging to a marriage than fighting. So, what kind of arguments should you
avoid in order to have a long, happy marriage? It is never too late to develop healthy
conflict strategies. Below are ten tips
that an individual can use to manage conflicts in marriage or relation as
explain by CALLED Magazine.
Talk About Conflict Before It Happens
How does your
husband/wife feel about conflict? Does he/she face it head on or avoid it at all costs?
When you understand how he/she feels about confrontation, you will be
more equipped to manage fights when they arise. If one of you avoids
conflict, you may need to establish strategies to ensure that issues
aren’t left to fester. Sweeping important problems under the rug doesn’t
make them disappear. It slowly erodes your marriage’s foundation.
Evaluate the Situation
When conflict does
arise, look for underlying issues before you react. Are you or your
husband stressed out because of work? Is your blood sugar low? Is this
issue tied to your personal history? Sometimes frustrations arise because
of external factors that need attention before you can resolve a disagreement.
Try to hone in on the true cause so that you can resolve it.
Avoid Bitterness, Wrath, Anger, and Clamor
It is important
that you either remain calm or reschedule your fight for a time when you
can address it with less emotion. Unchecked emotions can cause the deepest
wounds through hurtful words and actions. If you want your fight to
be productive, you must first ensure that it isn’t destructive.
Avoid Absolutes
You already know
that you shouldn’t call your husband/wife names or insult him. But, when you
say, “You always…” you are no longer commenting on his actions. Talking
about behavior in absolute terms is attacking your husband/wife’s
character. Those words can be as damaging as a direct insult. And if you
are being honest with yourself, your husband /wife probably
isn’t always guilty of something. These unfair comments
can alienate him/her over time, even if you resolve the issues at hand.
Stay Focused
It can be tempting
to air a long list of grievances when tensions run high. Spouting off
complaints may make you feel like you’re winning the fight, but
you’re really sabotaging your relationship. All those issues matter
and deserve your attention, but you should address them as they come
up — rather than in a single burst of rage. When you avoid talking
about problems, small things grow bigger over time. Eventually, they
grow so big that they obscure the true heart of your argument.
Don’t Make Assumptions
Angry people are
not very good listeners (or communicators, for that matter).
Force yourself to slow the dialogue down by telling your husband/wife
what you hear him/her saying. “When you say _____, I
understand ______.” Then make sure that your understanding matches
his/her intentions. If you do not understand each other, it will be
nearly impossible to find a mutually satisfying solution.
Forgive During AND After
Trading insults
and grievances back and forth will thrust you both into a vicious
cycle. One of you will need to take the first step towards the other
person. That step starts with forgiveness. You can stop the fight and
pave the way for resolution by being the first to accept your fault or to
see your husband/wife’s perspective. By the end of your conversation,
you may see new areas where forgiveness and apologies are necessary.
Accept Fault
You will rarely
(if ever) walk away from a fight with clean hands. Even if the fight
wasn’t your fault to begin with, were you loving and kind the entire
way through? Or did you say a few things you shouldn’t have? Did you
become angry more quickly than you should have? Did you fail to offer your
husband grace for his extenuating circumstances (like stress at
work)? Was your tone sharp when it should have been gentle? Be sure
to apologize for those actions.
Make a Plan
Conflict does not
arise because couples want things to stay the same. Your
differences became a problem because one of you needed a change.
Instead of assuming that things will be different, tell
each other the specific changes you’ll make to prevent future issues.
Make sure that those actions meet his needs, as well as yours — rather
than unilaterally identifying a solution.
Reconnect
Your conflict may be over when you have reached a mutual understanding, but it may not feel resolved. It may be difficult to release the tension of confrontation. Reconnecting with your husband through a hug or an activity that you both enjoy can help you move forward.
Your conflict may be over when you have reached a mutual understanding, but it may not feel resolved. It may be difficult to release the tension of confrontation. Reconnecting with your husband through a hug or an activity that you both enjoy can help you move forward.
Spiritual quick
fix
Spiritual Quick
fix is applicable where you see that your spouse or partner disappear in the
car on a journey. In this kind of dream,
the first thing is to advise your spouse in question to undergoes physical medical
test in order to ascertain whether there is an underlying health condition that
can cause him/her untimely death. If any things is discover medically , Detail
attention must be given to it.
Secondly you will
get Iyerosun(Ifa consultation powder)
and use it to imprint Odu Ifa Oyeku meji thus :
II II
II II
II II
II II
You will chant the
following Ifa recitation on it thus:
Titiiti Lori Ogbo
Biiripe Biiripe ni
omi oko n da
Dida ni omi oko n
da
Omi oko ki yi
Dia fun Oodua
Atewonron nife
Won nib o rubo
Lodun yi ni yoo
Goroye baba e
Bi ko si rubo
Lodun yi ni yo
goroye baba e
Sabee loro
Togun lofa
Won o je sigun
Ilobrin
Ki n ma ba won lo
Un ba mu pa
Un ba mu ta
Um ba mu rele lo sobinrin.
Oran bi oyi bi oyi
Dia fun Itu
Itu ni se oko
Ewure
Oran bi oyi bi oyi
Dia fun Agbo
Agbo ni soko awon
Aguntan
Oran bi oyi bi oyi
Dia fun aparo yeye
aparao yeye
Ti se omo Oluoko
Oran bi oyi bi oyi
Dia fun Akereponju
Omo Agemon ba won
ni lohun gbogbo lohun gbogbo
Okan soso poro
lobinrin dun monlowo oko
Bi won ba di meji
Won dojowu
Bi won ba di meta
Won a di eta ntule
Bi won di merin
Won a di Iwo lo
rin mi ni mo rin o
Bi won ba di marun
Won di lagbaja n
lo run oko wa tan sususu
Bi won ba di mefa
Won a di Ika
Bi won ba di meje
Won a di aje
Bi won ba di mejo
Won a di Iya
alatari bamba
Lo ti ko iru eyi
se okow a lowo
Bi won ba di mesan
Won a di Iyaale wa
ko ni Ise kan
Ko labo kan
Bo ba tiji
Aso okow a ni maa
san kiri
Bi won di mewa
Won a dile ni okow
a jokoo si
Ni won n wa okow a
wa
Igba to di elekini
Mo lo ba won
janpate Lode Aro
Won nke janpata janpata
mon mi
Won nke Oloyee mon
mi
Mo ni ki len nse lode Aro
Won ni Iyawo ni
Awon ngbe
Mo ni e pele o
Iyawo agbele
Omo AbiluOmo Agboge
lori Oge
Iyawo a boosan
Iyawo a booro
Iyawo a gboogbo
Oluyenyentuye
Iyaawo a gboogbo
Oluyenyentuye
Iyawo a gboogbo
Oluogbo
A gbo gboo gbo
Bi agba kan ti o
fi omo Owu ran onde sorun
Omoowu je je ku bi
Okini
Okini je ku bi Iru
Esin
Mo ni e je ki n
koja
Won ni ki n ma lo
Mo de Igbo je
Mo de Eluju je
Mo ba Iyarubo kan
jokujoku
O pa Eewo Isuko sowo Otun
O pa Tewura sowo
Osi
O p ewoo koko si
Arin
O ni nwaje
Mo lemi o gbodo je
Nigba to di
elekeiji
Mo lo bawon
janpata janpata lode Aro
Won nke janpata
-janpata mon mi
Won nke olooye mon
mi
Mo ni ki len n se
lode Aro
Won ni Awon n joye
ni?
Mo ni e pele oo
Oloye a gboogbo Oluyentuye
Oloye a gboogbo
Oluyenye tuye
Oloye a gboogbo
Oluogbo
A gboogbobo
Bi agba kan ti o
fi omoowu se onde sorun
Omowu jeje je o di
Okini
Okini je je ku bi
Iru Esin
Mo ni e je ki koja
Won ni ki n malo
Mo de Igbo je
Mo de Eluju je
Mo ba Iyarubo kan
jokujoku
O pa Eewo Isuko sowo Otun
O pa Tewura sowo
Osi
O p ewoo koko si
Arin
O ni nwaje je
Mo lemi O gbodo je
O mu owo epo
O fi tomi leeke
Otun Itooro Itooro
O mu owo Epo
O fi tomi leeke
osi Itooro -Itooro
Igba ti mo dele
Iya ni mo jehun
lode
Mo lemi o jehun
lode
Iya lohun o na mi
Moni Eewo Orisa
Enikan o gbodo
siwo na Babalawo to gbofa yaran-yaran lotu Ife yii
Woni ki ni n o se?
Mo ni bi enyan ba
siwo na Babalawo to gbofa yaran -yaran lotu Ife yi
Ohun buruku a ma sub ulu ohun buruku
Ohun buruku a maa sub
lu ohun buruku
Egun Ewon a ma ja
lu Egun ata
Ohun buruku a ma
ja lu ara won
Paminpao ni pnasa ojubuna n re luraa won
Luminluo ni kengbe
meji lu ara won lona odo
Lonii pariko o
tenuuu dundun wa
Lonii ni parigidi
o tenu bata jade
Dia fun Orunmila
Nijo ti won n paya
Iku nigbe loja Ejigbomekun
Iku gbo
Iku han gate
Iku merin se kese
O fefon sokun fa
O fi Akeke pa Kese
ija mese dahin-danhin
Iku te ori ooro
Ooro gbiramu
Ooro giramu nle
Iku te ori Apa
Apa gbiramu nile
Iku te ori Igba
Igba gbiramu nile
Igi gbogbo gbiran
mu nile
Ayunre nikan loni
ori ohuno gbo
O ni iku ti n pa
loja -lojo
Ti n pa
loruko-loruko
Iku ti n pa onile
, ti n pa abuledo
Bawoo ni Iku yi o
se pa ohun ni n dafa si?
Ayunre ni eeji
adibo
O mu eeta iteeni
O kori si oko Awo
Won ni ko ru eku
meji Oluwere
Won ko Eja meji
abiwegbda
Obidiye meji abedo
luke-luke
Ewure meji abamu
rede-rede
Erinla meji to fi
Iwo se Osuka
Gbogbo re loru
Obinrin lodale
Obinrin leke
Ki eni ma se fi
inu won Obinrin laye
Dai fun Olonjogbodu
ti n se Obinrin Iku
Won pe ni Arro
kutukutu
Won ni kini Iku
oko re o gbodo je
Ti n fi pa
omoolomon kiri
O ni kini won yoo
fohun?
O ni ohun ohun yo
gba Igba oke owo
Igba to gba igba
oke owo tan
O ni iku oko ohun
o gbodo je Eku?
O ni owo Iku a m
ak ihororo -Ihororo
O ni Iku oko ohuno
gbodo je eja
Won ni ti Iku ba
je eja nko ?
O ni ese Iku a ma
gbon Ihiriri -Ihiriri
O ni Iku oko ohun
o gbodo je eyin pepeye
Won ni ti Iku ba
je eyin pepeye nko?
O ni Iku a ma bi
igoro-Igoro
O ni Iku oko ohun
o gbodo je eyin pepeye?
Won ni ni Iku ba
je elente nko ?
O ni gbogbo ara
Iku a m ja Ibute -Ibute
Won fun Iku leku
Owo Iku ka
Ihoro-Ihoro
Iku je eku tan
Won fun Iku leje
Iku jeje tan
Gbogbo ese Iku n
gbo ihiriri-Ihiri
Won fun iku leyin
pepeye
Iku je eyin pepeye
tan
Gbogbo ara Iku n
ja Ibute-Ibute
Iku o teri ayunre
Ayunre yeri bese
Iku way o teere
O wa fige sale
Iku way o tere
O wadi di gbiramu
nile
O wa fi ariwo ta
ssale -saale
Orunmila lo di
Oyeye mi oyeye
Ooto niku ye lori
omo Awo
Mo ti jawe
Oluyeere o
Oyeye
Translations
The soul of elder
is everlasting
The water inside a
moving canoe splashes about persistently
The water inside
canoe splashes about
It cannot spills
away
This was Ifa’s
message for Odua atewonro nife, who descended from chain in Ife
They said ,If he
perform ebo
It was that year
that he will ascend his father throne
And if he did not
perform ebo
It was that year
that he will ascend his father throne
The people of city
of Saabe have poison
The people of city of Togun have arrows
None of them dare
lay siege to the city of women
I would have gone
with them
I would have killed
many
I would have sold
many to slavery
I would have take
some home as wives
Matter that seem
unstable
This was Ifa’s
message for he -goat
Who is the husband
of the goat
Matter that seems unstable
This was Ifa’s
message for Ram
Who is the husband
of the sheep
Matters that seems unstable
This was Ifa’s
message for bush fowl
The offspring of Olu oko
Matter that seems unstable
This was Ifa’s
message for Akereponju
The son of Agemon
that help them to have everythings
It is one wife
that is good for a man
If wive become two
They become rivals
If the wives
become three
The will destroy
the home
If they increase
to four
They laugh at one
another
If they increase
to five
They will accuse
the first wife of monopolizing their husband’s
property
When they increase
to six
The become wicked
people
When they increase
to seven
The will become
witches
When they increase
to eight
They will says the
fart fat head-wife have taught their husband his evil ways
When they increase
to nine
They will say the favorite
wife has no other work
No other
occupation
Excerpt to wake up
in the morning and wrap herself in theirs husbands’ apparel
When they become
ten
They will says if
their husband sit at home
Women will come to
him on their own volition
On the fisr
occasion
I want to engae in
contest in the city of Aro
The people of Aro
were shouting at me
I asked ,what are
they doing in the city of Aro
They said they
were marrying a wife
Then I said ‘accept
my greeting)
You will marry more
wives and bear more children
You will marry
more and more maidens
The wife will
deliver female children
She will deliver
male children
The wife will live
old to become like Oluyeyentuye
The anvil become
old and worn -out that its size reduce to that of a needle
The needle-size
become old and worn out that its size reduce to the size of a horse’s tail
I pleaded they should
let me pass
They said I can continue
my journey
On my way , I pass
through seven forests
And seven
wilderness
I met an old
worn-out woman
She put boiled and crushed yam on the right
She put a
boiled-crushed water yam on the left
She put a boiled
-crushed cocoyam in the middle
She invite me to
eat
I refused
On the second occasion
I went to engage
in contest in the city of Aro
The people of Aro
city were shouting at me
They were yelling
at me
I asked ,what are
you doing in the city of Aro
They answer they
were installing a chief
I said accept my
greeting.
The chief will be as
old old as Oluyetetuye
He will old as
Oluyenyetuye
The chief will be
as old as Oluogbo
He was so old
that he uses anvil to make belt of charm
around his neck
The anvil become
old and worn out that its size was reduced
to a needl
The needle size iron become old and worn -out that it was reduce to the size
of horse tail
I plead they
should let me pass
They said I could
continue my journey
On my way , I pass
through seven forests
And seven
wilderness
I met an old
worn-out woman
She put boiled and crushed yam on the right
She put a
boiled-crushed water yam on the left
She put a boiled
-crushed cocoyam in the middle
She invite me to
eat
I refused
She took her oily
hand
And with it made a
slender mark on my right cheek
She took her oily
hand
And with it made a
slender mark on my left cheek
When I arrived
home
Mother said that I
eat outside
But I said I did
not
Mother say that
she will beat me
To which I answered
,it is forbidden by the orisa(gods)
For any one to
beat an Awo that is verse in Ifa in this Ife city
She demand to
known the consequence of doing so
To which I replied
If a person beat
an Awo that is verse in Ifa in this city
of Ife
Bad things will
fall above on bad things, worse things will fall upon worse things
Sharp Ewon thorns
will fall on sharp Ata thorns
Bad things will
fall one another
Paminnpao is the
sound produce by the gourd hung over fireplace when it fall on those below it
Luminluo is the
sound produce by gourds when they hit one another on the way to the river
This is the day
the dundun drum will sound no more
This is the day
that Bata drum will not sound again
This was Ifa
message for Orunmila
On the day the
mother of Iku (death) was flogged at the market of Ejigbomekun
Iku heard of it
He cry loud in
anger
Death made Elephat
his horse ‘s pur
He made Bufallow
his rope
He made scorpion
his tightly fixed spur ready for war
Death was seen next
on Ooro tree
He pulled down the
ooro tree with great force
Death was seen next
on mahogany tree
He pulled down the
mahogany tree with great force
Death was seen
next on locust bean tree
Death was seen
next on locust bean tree with great force
Death was on top
of other tree
He fell other tree
with great force
The only exception
was Ayunre tree who said he was not mature enough for the figth
He aske that death
that killed the kings
Death that killed
the influential
Death that kill the
free-born and the strangers
How this death not kill him?
He got hold hold
of wo cowries for casting Ifa lot
He took three
cowries for fo Awo to spread on mat
He went to Awo
He was advised to
offer ebo with
Two fast moving
rats
Two fish that swim
gracefully
Two hens with big
livers
Two cow with fat
horns
He complied
Women are traitor
Let no man open
his mind for woman
This was Ifa’s
message for Olojongbodu
The wife of death
She was summoned
in the morning
And aske what her
husband will not eat
That made him to be killing other people children
around
She aske for what
they would give her
She said that she
would take two hundred cowries
After she received the money
She said Iku (death)
her husband must not eat rats
They asked what
will happen if he eat rat?
She said the hand
of death will be shaking without stop
She said death her
husband must not eat fish
They asked what
will happen if he eat fish?
She said, “the
legs of death will be shaking without stop”
She said that
death her husband must not eat duck egg.:
They asked, what
will happen if he eat duck egg
She said ,death
will be vomiting without stop
She said death her
husband must not eat Elente
They asked what
will happen if he eat Elente
She said, death
will become very weak
They rat to death
Death ate rat
His hand begin to
shake without stopping
They gave fish to
death
Death ate fish
And his feet start
to sake without stopping
They gave duck ‘s
egg to death
Death ate duck egg
And he started to
vomit without stop
They gave Elente to Iku
Death ate
Elente
An he become weak
Death slipped
suddenly and fell chest downward
Death slipped and
fall down with loud noise
And started to
shout in pain
Orunmila Oyeye I hail
you
It is certain that
death have slipped from Awo head
Oyeye I hail you
I have pluck Oluyere
leaves
I hail you Oyeye..
This must be sprinkle
on cloth normally wear by such spouse. He/she will escape untimely death.
IF YOU SEE IN YOUR
DREAMS THAT YOU ARE ENTERING DIFFERENT CARS IN DREAM: If you see in your dream
that you are entering different cars in dream. For a married person who see in
his/her dream that he /she is dropping from car and entering another. This kind
of dream connote unstable marriage. That is moving from one relationship to
another. For unmarried person who have this kind of dream this kind of dream connotes
unstable unemployment life. Moving from one job to the other with rest of mind.
The same interpretations apply when use
see in your dream that you are moving from one plane flight to the other without
stop. Same interpretation also applies when you see that you are moving from
one ship or canoe to another without stop.
Quick fix to this
Kind of Dream
The quick fix to
this kind of dream is both physical and spiritual. For a married person or
person in serious relationship who have this kind of dream. He/she can adopt
these “verywellmind” outline strategies
on avoiding divorce. It's no secret that it takes work to protect, nurture, and
grow a marriage. Between work schedules, children, and other obligations,
sometimes it can seem impossible to maintain that partnership. And when
problems arise, for some couples it's healthier to divorce
and go your separate ways,1 while for others, it's a better choice to work on your
relationship.
If you
want to stay with your partner but navigate the bumps in the road, there are
proactive measures—from improving communication to infusing more romance in
day-to-day life—you can take to prevent divorce. Here are 13 ways to improve
your partnership.
Rule Out the Idea of Divorce
Just
toying with the idea that you might be better off outside of the marriage can
put a major strain on the relationship, even if you never voice those thoughts.
In fact, that thought alone can cause a major break in your motivation to make
the marriage better.2 To combat this risk to your marriage, decide ahead of
time that divorce
is not an option. Making this commitment will help you focus on how you can
make the marriage better and stronger, rather than thinking about what life
might be like outside the marriage.
Honor and Respect Your Partner
People
inevitably change over time and understanding, appreciating, and adapting to
those changes is critical. To help remind yourself of the wonderful person you
married, make a list of their best qualities. This exercise will help you
remember why you fell in love in the first place. It also helps to vocalize how
much you appreciate your partner's quirks and eccentricities.3
Let your partner
know every day—through compliments or thank yous—that you appreciate all that
he or she does.
These
little expressions are like deposits in the bank. You don't want to make
withdrawals from your marriage without ever making any deposits. So, be sure
you are doing things that honor your partner for who he or she is.
Communicate Regularly
In the
age of smartphones, Netflix, and work-from-home lifestyles, it's easy to get
distracted and go days without having a real conversation with your spouse. Communicating
openly about your life, interests, dreams, frustrations, and feelings
is an important way to foster
intimacy in a relationship.4 Likewise, it's crucial that you listen to your
partner voice his or her thoughts, too. Sometimes it's helpful to set aside 30
minutes each day without interruptions where you can talk without any
distractions.
Share Financial Expectations and Budgets
Many
marriages are fraught with disagreements over finances.5 Often
couples bring different expectations about money to a relationship and find it
difficult to see the other person's perspective. Coming to an agreement on how
to handle money together is a critical component of successful marriages. Agree
on a budget and an approach to debt and then live within your limits.
For
some, it's important to differentiate between a need and a want. While both are
legitimate, couples face problems if they try to fulfill all their wants
without considering their budget. Likewise, it's important to incorporate some
flexibility in your budget to allow for entertainment, gifts, vacations, and
other activities that help strengthen the marriage.
Give Each Other Space
One of
the hardest things to balance in a marriage is the right amount of time to
spend together. Too much can feel like smothering while too little can be
interpreted as inattentive. So, when your partner needs space or a night out
with friends, offer to watch the kids or run the errands so they can easily get
that time.
It's
also important that you make time to spend with your partner. If babysitting
issues or financial constraints make that difficult, plan a fun, cost-effective
date
night at home. The key is that you both are making a concerted effort to
spend quality time together but allowing one another the space to have an
outside community as well.6
Ditch the Sweatpants
It's
easy to get into a routine of being overly casual, especially if you've been
with your partner for many years. But an easy way to rekindle romance is to
think back to those early days of dating—preparing for date night with an
at-home manicure, getting a fresh shave and haircut, or choosing a fun outfit.
And
while that may sound superficial, there are other ways to remind yourself just
how attractive and energized you are. Keeping up with your physical
fitness boosts confidence and well-being,7 and can double as a way to spend time with your
partner, whether it's taking a new workout class, training for a 5K, or
prepping healthy meals together on Sundays.
Keep Up the Courting
Another
way to keep the flame burning in a marriage is to continue courting your spouse.8 Make
time for a date night every week, even if it's to get ice cream or cook a new
recipe together. If money is a concern, trade babysitting with another couple,
or put the baby in a stroller and walk around the mall or go to the park.
It also helps to
continue doing the things you did when you were dating. Leave your partner
little love notes where he or she will find them. Make them coffee in the
morning. Buy their favorite snack at the grocery store. Many couples report
that these types of small gestures help them feel
like newlyweds.
Forgive Quickly
Often
marriages begin to fall apart when one person holds a grudge. In fact, research
has shown that feeling contempt
toward your partner almost always festers and can lead to divorce if it's
never resolved.9 As a result, try to forgive your partner as quickly
as possible.
Remember
that forgiveness
is just as much a gift you give yourself. Holding a grudge takes up mental and
emotional space and almost always impacts your health and stress levels.10 Opt
for a forgiving spirit and reap the positive benefits, which range from better
sleep to stress relief.
And, if
you have wronged your partner in some way, be sure to sincerely
apologize and ask for forgiveness. Truly listen to what your partner has to
say and why he or she is upset to understand how to do things differently in
the future.
Don't Try to Control Your Partner
Give
your spouse room to be the person he or she is and learn to collaborate on
decisions. In healthy marriages, both partners have mutual respect for one another
and don't demand their own way. They also give their spouse the freedom to come
and go without having to ask permission. They don't monitor or control one
another. Be sure you're collaborating with your partner on any big decisions,
from spending to raising children.
Partners who try
to control one another often become emotionally
abusive or display signs of financial abuse,
which frequently leads
to divorce.
Get Help Before It's Too Late
If
you're still having challenges or you fear that divorce might be imminent,
consider counseling
or couples therapy.11 Often your or your partner's workplace will have
access to an employee assistance program (EAP), where you can receive some
initial help or get a referral. You also could consider meeting with a trusted
religious leader if you share faith and then move beyond that if needed.
It's
no secret that it takes work to protect, nurture, and grow a marriage. Between
work schedules, children, and other obligations, sometimes it can seem
impossible to maintain that partnership. And when problems arise, for some couples
it's healthier to divorce
and go your separate ways,1 while for others, it's a better choice to work on your
relationship.
If
you want to stay with your partner but navigate the bumps in the road, there
are proactive measures—from improving communication to infusing more romance in
day-to-day life—you can take to prevent divorce. Here are 13 ways to improve
your partnership.
Rule Out the Idea of Divorce
Just
toying with the idea that you might be better off outside of the marriage can
put a major strain on the relationship, even if you never voice those thoughts.
In fact, that thought alone can cause a major break in your motivation to make
the marriage better.2
To combat this risk to your marriage, decide ahead of time that divorce
is not an option. Making this commitment will help you focus on how you can
make the marriage better and stronger, rather than thinking about what life
might be like outside the marriage.
Honor and Respect Your Partner
People
inevitably change over time and understanding, appreciating, and adapting to
those changes is critical. To help remind yourself of the wonderful person you
married, make a list of their best qualities. This exercise will help you
remember why you fell in love in the first place. It also helps to vocalize how
much you appreciate your partner's quirks and eccentricities.3
Let
your partner know every day—through compliments or thank yous—that you
appreciate all that he or she does.
These
little expressions are like deposits in the bank. You don't want to make
withdrawals from your marriage without ever making any deposits. So, be sure
you are doing things that honor your partner for who he or she is.
Communicate Regularly
In
the age of smartphones, Netflix, and work-from-home lifestyles, it's easy to get
distracted and go days without having a real conversation with your spouse. Communicating
openly about your life, interests, dreams, frustrations, and feelings
is an important way to foster
intimacy in a relationship.4 Likewise, it's crucial that you listen to your partner
voice his or her thoughts, too. Sometimes it's helpful to set aside 30 minutes
each day without interruptions where you can talk without any distractions.
Share Financial Expectations and Budgets
Many
marriages are fraught with disagreements over finances.5 Often couples bring different
expectations about money to a relationship and find it difficult to see the
other person's perspective. Coming to an agreement on how to handle money
together is a critical component of successful marriages. Agree on a budget and
an approach to debt and then live within your limits.
For
some, it's important to differentiate between a need and a want. While both are
legitimate, couples face problems if they try to fulfill all their wants
without considering their budget. Likewise, it's important to incorporate some
flexibility in your budget to allow for entertainment, gifts, vacations, and
other activities that help strengthen the marriage.
Give Each Other Space
One
of the hardest things to balance in a marriage is the right amount of time to
spend together. Too much can feel like smothering while too little can be
interpreted as inattentive. So, when your partner needs space or a night out
with friends, offer to watch the kids or run the errands so they can easily get
that time.
It's
also important that you make time to spend with your partner. If babysitting
issues or financial constraints make that difficult, plan a fun, cost-effective
date
night at home. The key is that you both are making a concerted effort to
spend quality time together but allowing one another the space to have an
outside community as well.6
Ditch the Sweatpants
It's
easy to get into a routine of being overly casual, especially if you've been
with your partner for many years. But an easy way to rekindle romance is to
think back to those early days of dating—preparing for date night with an
at-home manicure, getting a fresh shave and haircut, or choosing a fun outfit.
And
while that may sound superficial, there are other ways to remind yourself just
how attractive and energized you are. Keeping up with your physical
fitness boosts confidence and well-being,7 and can double as a way to spend time with your partner,
whether it's taking a new workout class, training for a 5K, or prepping healthy
meals together on Sundays.
Keep Up the Courting
Another
way to keep the flame burning in a marriage is to continue courting your
spouse.8
Make time for a date night every week, even if it's to get ice cream or cook a
new recipe together. If money is a concern, trade babysitting with another
couple, or put the baby in a stroller and walk around the mall or go to the
park.
It
also helps to continue doing the things you did when you were dating. Leave your
partner little love notes where he or she will find them. Make them coffee in
the morning. Buy their favorite snack at the grocery store. Many couples report
that these types of small gestures help them feel
like newlyweds.
Forgive Quickly
Often
marriages begin to fall apart when one person holds a grudge. In fact, research
has shown that feeling contempt
toward your partner almost always festers and can lead to divorce if it's
never resolved.9
As a result, try to forgive your partner as quickly as possible.
Remember
that forgiveness
is just as much a gift you give yourself. Holding a grudge takes up mental and
emotional space and almost always impacts your health and stress levels.10 Opt for a forgiving spirit and reap
the positive benefits, which range from better sleep to stress relief.
And,
if you have wronged your partner in some way, be sure to sincerely
apologize and ask for forgiveness. Truly listen to what your partner has to
say and why he or she is upset to understand how to do things differently in
the future.
Don't Try to Control Your Partner
Give
your spouse room to be the person he or she is and learn to collaborate on
decisions. In healthy marriages, both partners have mutual respect for one
another and don't demand their own way. They also give their spouse the freedom
to come and go without having to ask permission. They don't monitor or control
one another. Be sure you're collaborating with your partner on any big
decisions, from spending to raising children.
Partners
who try to control one another often become emotionally
abusive or display signs of financial abuse,
which frequently leads
to divorce.
Get Help Before It's Too Late
If
you're still having challenges or you fear that divorce might be imminent,
consider counseling
or couples therapy.11
Often your or your partner's workplace will have access to an employee
assistance program (EAP), where you can receive some initial help or get a
referral. You also could consider meeting with a trusted religious leader if
you share faith and then move beyond that if needed.
Spiritual
Quick fix
Sand
taking from the base of big unmovable rock
Sand
taking from pound or lake
Bathing
soap
Iyerosun
(Ifa consultation powder)
Preparation
You
will pound the Sand taking from the base of big unmovable rock, Sand taking
from pound or lake with bathing soap. You will then use Iyerosun to imprint Odu
Ifa Eji Odi also known as odi meji thus:
I I
II II
II II
I I
You
will chant the following Ifa recitation on it thus:
A
dindi odi
A
dindi odi
Dia
fu Eji-Odi
Ti
won bi ni Iresa Adu
Ti
yo ma gbe ile onile kiri
Ebo
ni won ni ko
O
rubo
A
ti ru a tit u
Eji
wa ridi joko nile
Translation:
A
dindi odi
A
dindi odi
This
was Ifa’s message for Eji odi
That
who was a free born of Iresa Adu
An
he now living in other people’s houses
He
was advised to offer ebo
He
complied
We
have offer ebo eji odi
Now
he is stable at home
You
will then mix it with soap
The
person in question will bathe with it.
IF
YOU DREAM YOU ARE INISDE A CAR AS A PASSENGER A MAD MAN IS DRIVING YOU – In any
kind of dream where you see in your dream that you are inside a motor car as a passenger
and a mad or insane person is the driver. This kind dream is a warning dream telling
the dreamer that he/she is been control or advise on journey of his/her life by
foolish and unworthy person.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOU A PASSENGER AND THE CAR IS BEEN DRIVE BY RED OR
BLACK COLOR BIRD: In any kind of dream where the dreamer see that he is inside a
motor car, but the driver driving the car is a white or red color bird. This
kind of dream is telling the dreamer destiny or journeys of life is been
control by witches and wizard.
Quick
fix to this kind of dream
Ewe
Ajekobale (leaves of Croton zambesicus)
Epo
Obo (bark stem of Obo tree)
Ose
Iwe (bathing soap)
Preparation
You
will pound the aforementioned items together and be bathing with it regularly
at night. You will be free from witches.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOU INVOLVE IN MOTO ACCIDENT: This kind of dream usually
have two meaning. Physically it can mean you will actually experience motor
accident. While spiritual it mean sudden abrupt end to your relationship, job
offer etc.
Quick
fix to is kind of Dream
Physically
if you haver personal car ,you need to check if there is any fault in it that
can cause accident and fix it. Secondly you must drive with extreme safety
precaution.
If
you want to travel and you have this kind of dream you can postpone the journey
it is kind of journey you can postpone.
Spiritually
you need to get three snails and pray over it to avoid physical calamity. You
will then throw them into the bush and
allow them to walk away.
IF
YOU SEE YOUR SELF IN MOTOR CAR THAT IS DRIVING BACK WARD INSTEAD OF MOVING FORWARD
IN YOUR DREAM: You may see in your dream that you are inside a motor car that
is driving in reverse mode in dream. In any kind of dream of this nature where
you see in your dream that you are inside car driving backward. This kind of
dream connote spiritual attack of spirits of backwardness and lack of progress
by agent of darkness.
Quick
Fix To This Kind Of Dream
Any
kind of dream of this nature require
spiritual quick fix . One of the spiritual quick fixthat can be use by anybody for
this kind of dream is derive from Odu Ifa Ejiogbe :
You
will use Iyerosun (Ifa consultation powder) to imprint Odu Ifa Ejiogbe thus:
I I
I I
I I
I I
You
will then chant the following Ifa recitation on it thus:
Enu saa
Dia
fun Ogbe to ti Ikole Orun bow a sile aye
Won
ni koni ba ese re jari
If
ani to ba se bi ise temi ni
Iro
ni won npa
Eke
ni won n se
O
ni emi emi yo ba ese temi jari
Oko
ki mu ese oko aimaja
Ada
ki mu ese oko aimaja
Afa-re koja -ona Niti Inunrin
Bi
karanjangbon ba fenu mu igi
A
si to lara doke
Translation
Enu
saa
This
was Ifa’s message for Ogbe when coming from heaven to earth
When
the enemies said he would not accomplish his mission
Ifa
says that if it is my own case
They
are only telling lies
They
are merely deceiving their selves
I
would accomplish my mission
Hoe
never start farm row without accomplishing it
Cutlass
never start farm row without accomplishing it
Crawling
far across the footpaths is that of Inunurin
When
Kanranjogbon lay it hands on tree
It
will definitely climb it to the top.
You
will mix it with bath water o bath.
IF
YOU SEE YOURSELF DRIVING CAR FORWARD AT GOOD MODERATE SPEED AND RELATIVE
COMFORT; This kind of dream is a positive message dream. Telling the dreamer
that he/she will experience relative comfort and progress with ease in his or
her life .The progress will come from relationship and work life.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOUR CAR IS OVERHEATING: This kind of dream connotes
stress, lack of peace of mind and health retaliated issue on the part of the dreamer that have
this dream
Quick
Fix To this Kind of Dream
The
fix to this kind of dream is physical the dreamer needs relaxation and rest. He
/she can also undergo medical check up to ascertain if there is any underlying
health condition that can affect his or her health.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOU ARE A COMPETITOR IN CAR RACE : In any kind of
dream of this nature where you see in your dream that you are competing in car
race. This kind of dream is telling the dreamer that he /she need to tight up
his/her belt in his career pursuit, because there are already people competing
with him or her to overthrow him.
IF
YOU DREAM OF RECEIVING A CAR AS A GIFT IN YOUR DREAM: In any kind of dream
where the dreamer sees in his/her dream that he receives car as a gift in his
or her dream. This kind of dream is telling the dreamer that he/she needs to be
prepare because he /she will soon enter into new friendship or relationship
that will change the course of his/her life journey. It may be that he/she will
have new lover or friends.
IF
YOU KEEP ON DREAMING OF CAR CRASH OR AUTO CRASH: In any kind of dream where the
dreamer keeps on dreaming of car crash or auto crash. This kind of dream is
warning dream telling the dreamer to take precaution against the such occurrence.
The meanings to be giving to this kind of dream depend on the situation and
condition of the dreamer in life. In the first instance for a student who have
this kind of dream. The dream is telling him to take necessary precaution to
avoid abrupt ends of his education. Same interpretation applies to apprentice learning
a trade. for an employee in the service of others same interpretations apply. Same
apply to people in marriage.
IF
YOU DREAM OF HAVING CUSTOMISED CAR PLATE NUMBER: If you see in your dream that
you have a customized plate number bearing your name on a car. This kind of
dream is telling the dreamer that he /she is will soon become blessed, famous
and wealthy.
IF
YOU SEE IN DREAM THAT SOMEONE IS TRYING TO WRITE YOUR CAR PLATE NUMBER WHEN YOU
ARE DRIVING: In any kind of dream where you see that some one is trying to
write or already write the registration number on your car when you are driving.
This is warning dream that the secret of certain wrong things such as illegal activities,
stealing, adultery will be expose, because some people are already keeping tab
on you or trying to get information about you.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT FLOOD IS TAKING YOUR CAR AWAY: This kind of dream is
a warning dream telling the dreamer that he/she is going to lose his
relationship, marriage or job to financial crises if no pre-preparation is make
to avoid it or manage the financial crises when it comes.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOU BUY A CAR: In any kind of dream where you see
that you buy a car. This kind of dream is positive message dream telling that
you are going to embark on new face of journey in your life soon. This journey
may be marriage, friendship or job offer. You may also see in your dream that you bought
car for your wife. This kind of dream is warning dream telling to re-enforce
and re-union his/her relationship with his/her spouse through gift. You may
also see in your dream that you buy car for your aged parent. This also warning
dream telling the dreamer to maintain good life journey relationship with his/her
parent.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT CAR HIT YOU: When you get hit by car in your dream
,this does nit mean car will hit you in real life. This kind of dream is
telling you to very vigilant so that you can safe from avoidable accident which
is not from your own accord.
IF
YOUR CAR BRAKE FAIL TO WORK IN DREAM: In any kind of dream where you see that
your car brake fail to work .This is warning dream to prepare yourself and your
mind because some one you rely upon or certain promise you rely upon will fail
you.
IF
YOU SEE IN DREAM THAT A CAR CATH FIRE :in any kind of dream of this nature the
dream is telling the dreamer of imminent danger or crises due to lack of
observation and carelessness.
IF
YOU SEE IN YOUR DREAM THAT YOU HIT A PEDESTRIAN WITH A CAR: This kind of dream
is telling the dreamer that he/she be vigilant not to fall victim of legal
matter due to his/her own carelessness.
IF
YOU BUY A CAR WITHOU BATTERY OR ENGINE IN DREAM: If you see in your dream that
you buy a motor car without engine or battery. This warning dream telling the
dreamer that he/she is about to enter into marriage or relationship without or
even business that look good to him/her but inwardly it will not be able to
produce any result.
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