SEX
(LOVE MAKING) AND SEXUAL ORIENTATION IN YORUBA SPIRITUALITY BY BABALAWO OBANIFA-Obanifa
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Sex (love making) is an
indispensable aspects of human life, yet we always try to avoid public
discussions and teachings on it but almost 80 % of human being engage in it on
daily basis. Sex if not abuse is one of greatest assets that humans need for
his or her spiritual, biological, social and economic well being. But if sex is
abuse it results into spiritual degradation and diseases and sometimes death.
Hence a sufficient knowledge of what sex (love- making) is, is important for
and average human being to have balance spiritual life as well as have sounds
health and happiness. The function of love making go far beyond procreation,
sex is needed for biological and social economic balance of human beings. Babalawo Obanifa will in this work elaborate
on questions of what is sex? What are health benefits of having regular healthy
sex? what are the life - styles to leave and behavior to cultivate to
have healthy sexual life? who are the best set of people to have sex with? What
are the sex positions or styles available and which one of the sex position is
approved for purposes of procreation according to Yoruba culture and spirituality,
which of these sex position is just for fun, sexual orientation, which sexual
orientation is approve in in Yoruba culture and spirituality? The work will
explain spiritual and biological importance of sex (love making) from
perspective of Yoruba culture and spirituality. By sex in the context of this
work we are referring to love making between man and woman. Sex (love-making)
simply mean sexual activities. That's sexual activities involving the penis or
vaginas, especially when a man put his penis inside the vagina of a woman.
Although there are other methods wish is not widely aspects as a natural form
of having sex. The questions now is that apart from purpose of procreation what
are other uses of sex to human?
USES
OF SEX TO HUMAN BEING
Under this sub-heading I will be concerned with the biological uses of sex for human health:
sex is Aerobic exercise that improve the blood circulation this happen because your heart rate increase when you have sex and it allows free blood circulation blood flow to the body organ and cell, in short what I am is saying is that blood circulation during sex can do wonders to your hearts.
Good healthy regular sex lower high blood pressure
Sex (love making) can reduce and take away fear and anxieties because your brain releases some special hormones during sex to perform this function.
Sex reduce stress, endocrine and oxytocin are released during sex (love making) these two hormone are called feel good hormone because they activate the pleasure center in the brain that can feel relaxed and sometime sleep
Sex if healthy can make you look younger
Sex burn calories and is a very good form of exercise 30 minutes of healthy sex can burn almost 85 calories from the body
You can experience longer life by having healthy sex
Having sex once a week has been trace to higher level of an antibody call 'IgA' (Immunoglobulin A) this antibody can protect human body from cold and other infections, in other words healthy sex boost your immune systems
.
Healthy sex improve cardiovascular health in men
Healthy sex improve cardiovascular health in men
Frequent orgasm has been said to prevent cancer
Regular healthy sex increases the level of estrogen in woman and testosterone in men
Healthy sex improves women bladder control
Because of space and time, I will not be able to continue to expatiate more on physical benefits of having healthy sex. Regular sex in marriage and relationships increase commitment and reduce the level of insecurity and trust issues between partners. Now I think I should quickly discuss lifestyles or behavior to cultivate to have stable and sound, heathy, and active sexual life.
If a man abstains from sex for a long time his nerves may become obstructed and weak and even his penis may shrink by reducing in size.
Having good sex will reduce risk of having prostate cancer.
People who don't have good regular sexual life tend to be unnecessary harsh and callous
If a man doesn't have orgasm or ejaculate sperms for a long period it can lead to stomach ache, some time even brain disorder.
BEHAVIOR TO CULTIVATE TO HAVE HEALTH AND ACTIVE SEXUAL LIFE
Improve your sexual life
by eating foods like chocolate, oyster, garlic, ginger, these foods boost
libido. Any aphrodisiac will help in this regard.
Avoid heavy meal before sex
Don't eat carbohydrates food at least one hour after sex eat fresh fruits, don't do any rigorous exercise at least an hour after having sex
Shower before having sex these will prepare your body for ecstasy and loosen your muscles for great flexibility for you to enjoy the sex is good but is not good to have sex every day it is danger have sex when your body crave for and when you are really in mood.
It is not good to have sex with your opposite sex when one of you is running high temperature
Don't have sex with a woman without foreplay so that her virginal can be wet for easy penetration so that both of you can enjoy the sex.
The women on top sex position is not really good health wisely for men. Because if they woman is riding you during sex when ejaculate all the sperm will not come out, some sperm will go back be you back is down the sperms hat don't come out because of women on top sexual position don't go back to scrota sack but can become diseases.
If you have sex for one round you should relax, if possible till you go to toilet and urinate and your body has become calm before you have another round. If you are forcing yourself or using drugs to achieve any purpose during sex other than this natural way it do negatively affect the brain of man and make man grow old higher.
If you are a young man it is not good for you to sleep or have sex with aged or old women because the blood that will be pass to you from old woman is very weak and non-beneficial to him.
If you have sex with a woman during her menstruation can make you have weak erections sometimes heart diseases for men
If you have sex with a woman with the menstruation blood on her, the woman can give birth to albino or a blind baby(this opinion is Yoruba believes )
If you know a woman is suffering from certain diseases and you went ahead to have sex with her, you can contact such diseases
If a woman have diseases take care of the disease before have sex with her for purposes of fertility if not the pregnant from such Intercourse can be imbecile
If you use force to have sexual intercourse with a woman without out her consent if such woman become pregnant such child may become thugs or rascal (This opinion is Yoruba believes)
Use natural herbs to improve your sexual life. Love too can be essential in having sexual Intercourse because having sex with the person you love help.
Now since we have known the importance of having sex and some lifestyle to cultivate to have good sexual life. The next thing that will be worthy of discuss is sexual position and which sexual position is approve in in Yoruba culture and spirituality to be the best. When discussing sex position in modern day the foremost authority on sex position is Wikipedia. Although the widely known sex position is the missionary sex position. It is not every sex position explain by Wikipedia that can be adopted and practice in every culture because of religion and cultural limitations. Now I will explain each sex position as explained by Wikipedia. It is instructive to noted that sex positions increase every day with the spate of modernity. Wikipedia put it in alphabetical order which I will put it forward as such.
69 SEX POSITION: sixty -
sex position, also known by it French name soixante-neuf(69)is a group of sex
position in which two people align themselves so that each person mouth is near
the other's genitals, simultaneously performing oral sex, the participants are
thus mutually inverted like numerals 6and 9 hence the name. This position can
involve any combination of gender.
A
ANAL SEX :this is generally the insertion and thrusting of erected penis into a person's anus or anus and rectum for sexual pleasure.
ANAL SEX :this is generally the insertion and thrusting of erected penis into a person's anus or anus and rectum for sexual pleasure.
ANILINGUS:this is an an oral and anal sex act where one person stimulate the anus of the other person by using their mouth, including lips, tongue or teeth, this can also be refer to as anal - oral contact or rim job or simply rimming and it may be performed by or on people of any sexual orientation for personal pleasure.
AUTOFELLATIO :this is the act of oral stimulation of one own penis as a form of maturation. But only limited numbers of men are capable of doing that.
C
COITAL ALIGNMENT TECHNICQUE
This sex position is known as grinding the corn, it is use primarily as a variant to missionary position and is designed to maximize clitoria stimulation during sexual Intercourse (coitus) this is achieved by combining the riding high variations of missionary position with pressure and counter pressure movement perform by each partner in rhythm with coitus.
COWGIRL POSITION :woman on top, also called the cowgirl or riding position, is a group of sex positions in which the man lies on his back or sits, the woman straddles him facings either forward or back, and the man inserted his erected penis into the woman vigina or anus. The cow girl name is derived from the image of the receiving partner riding the partner as a cow boy rides a bucking horse.
D
DOGGY STYLE :doggy style, also known as doggie style is any sex position in wish a person bend over, crouches on all fours (usually on hands and knees) or lies on their abdomen, for sexual Intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration. Doggy style even have various types wish space and time can allow me to delve into.
F
FISTING :FISTING, hand balling, fist - fucking, brachiovagina or brachioproctic insertion is a sexual activities involving inserting a hand into vigina or rectum. Once insertion is complete the finger are either clenched into a fist or kept straight. Fisting may be performed without partner but it is often a partner activities.
FROGY IS THE SAME THING AS DOGGY STYLE EXPLAIN ABOVE
FROT:this is a non-penetrative form of male to male sexual activities that usually involves penis to penis contact. This is not acceptable in IFA and ORISHA spirituality I will explain on this in detail when I get to sexual orientation.
H
HANDJOB :this is manual stimulation of male's penis or scrotum by another person to induce sexual pleasure some time resulting to orgsm. It opposite is the manual stimulation of the female vigina, clitoris or rest of the vulva this act is called fingerings. Stimulation of the genitals perform between two people is mutual maturation.
I
INTERCRURAL SEX :this is also known as femoral /interfemoral sex, this is a type of non-penetrative sex in which a male place the penis between the receiving partner's thigh (often with lubrication) and thrust to create friction.
IRRUMATIO:This is the act of thrusting of the penis into the mouth of a partner or between the thigh. It almost same thing as intercural sex explain above.
M
MAMMARY INTERCOURSE :this is a sex act, perform either as foreplay or as non penetrative sex, it involves the stimulation of the male penis by the female breasts
vice_versa
MISSIONARY :this is man on top position is a general sex position in which woman lies on her back and a man lie on top of her while they face each other and engage in sexual Intercourse or other sexual activities. This sex position is associated with heterosexual but gay and lesbian can also use it. If is front to front sexual act.
N
Non penetrative sex :this is a sexual activity that doesn't include penetration. It is generally exclusive of of the penetrative aspects of vigina, anal, or oral sexual activity but including various forms of sexual activities like frontage, masturbation, kissing, cuddling etc.
O
ORAL SEX :this is sexual activities involving the stimulation of the genitalia of a person by another person using the mouth (including the lips, tongue or teeth) or throat. Cunnilligus is oral sex perform on female while fellatio is oral sex perform on male. But it must be noted that oral sex can pose the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
P
PEARL NECKLACE :this is a slang use to refer to sexual act in which a man ejaculate semen on or near the neck, chest or breast of another person. If the ejaculations is onto the other persons face is called facial necklace.
PILEDRIVER(SEX POSITION) :This is a sexual position name after the downward motion of actual pile driver, the position is executed by the receiving partner lying on their back bent into a frontbend in a pose similar to yoga plow position, with their bottom up and their legs bent over their head, while the insertive partner stands above them and inserts their penis or other objects downward into the receptive partner's vigina or anus. This position is both acrobatics and quite strenuous for both participants. Especially the receptive partner who is severely constrain by the front bend.
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S
S
SEVENTH POSTURE :this sex position requires that the receiving partner lie on his or her side. The penetrating partner faces the receiver, straddling th receiver lower leg, and lift the receiver's leg on either side of the body onto the crook of the penetrating partner elbow or onto shoulder. This sex position is by Richard Francis Burton from his book perfume garden. But this sex position has been criticize for been acrobatics.
SPOON POSITION OR SPOONING :this sexual position and a cuddling techniques, derived it names from the way two spoon may be position side by side, with bowls aligned. The sexual spoon position is a form of rear - entry position,.
SPREAD EAGLE SEX POSITION :this is a sex position in wish a person has his or her arms outstretched and legs apart figuratively resembling and eagle with wing spread.
SUSPENDED CONGRESS: this is sex position is done (1)the male lift his female partner off her feet. (2)the woman wrap her arms around her partners neck (3)the man grabs her on her buttocks and penetrate her vigina or anus. This is common pornography.
T
THREESOME :this is a sexual activities that involves three people at the same time. It is also called love in triangle. Although this is commonly apply to casual sexual activities. But in some culture it is found in long time domestic relationship at least to my humble knowledge this is not approve in Yoruba culture, if not Africa in entirety.
TRIBADISM :this is commonly call tribbing or scissoring position. This is a sex act in wish a woman rubs her vulvar against her partner's body, especially for ample stimulation of the clitoris.. This may involve female to female genital contact or a female rubbing her vulva against her partner's thigh or other parts of the body excluding mouth.
Now that I have considered variety of sex positions it is instructive to emphasize that it not all these sex position that is approve in every religion and culture in IFA and ORISHA spirituality and Yoruba culture sex position between two people of the same sex is not approve, I will expatiate on this when I got to sexual orientation majority of all these sex position are designed to satisfy human sexual pleasure. So nothing is wrong for husband and wife or for two adult’s female and male who are in genuine romantic relationship to adopt them during love making. But it instructive that for couple trying to get pregnant the sex position good for them is the missionary sex position (that man on top and women lie down on her back during sexual intercourse). The foremost authority on sexual position according to Ifa spirituality is IWORI OBARA, other names for this Odu Ifa is IWORI OBERE OR IWORI APAJUBA. see what this odu ifa have to say on sexual position
Ifa ni
O door loro gangan
O kan-an loro gangan
A difa FUN IWORI
Ti n do aya re loro
O feyitin o mu omi oju serahun omo
Ebo ni won ni ko mase
Ogbebo nbe o rubo
IWORI o o de bere
A ti se doni looro gangan?
Iwori o badakun o bere ase banisun loro domo.
Translation
You have sex in standing position
You penetrate a woman in the same standing position
Cast ifa divination reading for iwori
Who always make love to his wife in a standing position
And lean on the wall lamenting that his relationship don't bring out fruit of the womb
He was instructed to make sacrifice
He does
Iwori, why can't you lie down?
Why are you making love to your wife in standing position
Iwori please lie down it is difficult to impregnate a woman by having sex in standing position.
Otura Iwori is another ifa verse that buttress that the best sex position for couples seeking child is man on top and woman must be under him with her back lie down in sleeping position during sexual Intercourse. This is what otura Iwori have to say :
Igi gbogboro ko da omi e lebu
Opo Ile o to teke
Difa fun Iwori
Ti n do aya re lori iduro
Iwori ma do aya loro mon
To ba fe ko di olomon
Translation
The house pillars can't outnumber the rafter
Ifa divination was performed for Iwori
Iwori who usually have sex with her wife in standing position.
Iwori stop stop having sex with your wife in standing position if you want to become pregnant and get children.
This discussion is two
edge there is also ifa verses stating sex position for women who want get
children. The foremost ifa authority accept by babalawo on women sex position
during sexual Intercourse for purposes of child bearing can be found odu Ifa
Ose odi. This odu ifa state clearly that man must be on top and woman must be
below during sexual Intercourse for purposes of pregnancy. See what Odu ifa Ose
odi say :
O se nidi
O run nidi
Orooru lagbalagba n lagbaku idi
Difa fun latele
Abu fun laleke
Won lo re kanrile omo ni bibi
Ebo ni won ni ki won ose
Won gbebo n be won rubo
Latele la pe obirin
Laleke La pe Okunrin
Translation
A woman shake her waist stylishly
The man shake his front waist too
It is the middle of the night that mature people engage in the act of love making
Ifa divination reading was performed for a person who must lie below
Similar ifa was performed for the person who must lie on top
When they want to start their efforts on child bearing
They were instructed to carry out sacrifice which they do
Latele (that is the person lie below) is the name of a woman
Laleke that (the person lie on top) is the name of a man.
From Odu Ifa Ose Odi it is clear that man must be on top and woman be below for purposes of fertility. Now I am going to discuss sexual orientations and wish sexual orientation is approved in IFA and ORISHA spirituality. But before we go on ifa verse let us quickly take a look according to Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, what sexual orientations mean and types available. According to Wikipedia Sexual orientation is an enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attractions (or combination of these) to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender. These attractions are generally sub sum under :heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, while asexuality is identified as the forth categories. Now I will explain each in turn
HETEROSEXUAL :this is a romantic sexual attractions or sexual behavior between persons of the opposite sex or gender. e. g male and female.
HOMOSEXUALITY :this is sexual attractions or sexual behavior between member of thesame sex and gender e.g male and male(gay) female and female (lesbian)
BISEXUAL :this is sexual attractions or sexual behavior towards both male and female or romantic or sexual attractions to people of any sex or identity, this later is term as pansexulity.
ASSEXUALITY :this is the lack of sexual attractions to any one.
This number five that I will put here is not listed in Wikipedia as sexual orientation and that is Bestiality
BESTIALITY: This is human sexual attractions to
animals.
The sexual orientation approved in IFA spirituality and Yoruba cultural believes is HETEROSEXUAL :that is sexual attractions between man and woman. Ifa forbid sexual relationship between man and man or female and fellow female sexual relationship. So any sexual orientation expect heterosexuality is not approve in IFA. The foremost authority in IFA on sexual orientation is odu ifa OFUN IRETE also known as OFUN alaaye. Ifa said
Ireke dun ju esisun
Epo se je isu
Isu se je epo
Akaso lo dun gun Aka
Obinrin dun basun ju Okunrin lo
Okunrin dun basun ju Obinrin lo
Bokunrin ba Okunrin sun
Bi kooko bi oowo
Bi iku bi agbarin
Bi obirin ba Obinrin sun
Bi erofo, Bi eri
Bokunrin ba Obinrin sun
Bi obirin ba Okunrin sun
Bi Eni fola yun pun
Bi Eni fola yun Ra
Igi OFUN rete lo ro gangan mon olele
Difa fun apon ako
Ti yi olo fi olele omo olofa se aya
Apon pe olele, olele o je oo
Ko ju ohun ti ifa se lo
Apon pe olele, olele o je
Ko ju ohun ti Ebora n se lo.
Translation
Sugar cane is more sweet than elephant grass
Palm oil is a good supplement to eat yam
Yam is a good supplement to eat palm oil
A ladder is a good instrument to climb rafter
It is sweet and better for a man to have sexual Intercourse with a woman than her fellow man
It is better for a woman too to have sexual relationship with man than her female counterpart
If a man have sex with her fellow man
The resultant effects will be lumps, boils and yam.
If a woman also have sex with her fellow woman
The resultant effects will be murk, stinking odour, filth and irritation.
If a man have sex with a woman
If also woman have sex with a man
The resultant effective is indescribable hedonistic pleasure
The feeling derived is unquantifiable enjoyment
OFUN irete sex organ was strong and turgid
Ifa divination reading was performed for a chronic bachelor
On the day he was going to seek olele, the daughter of olofa hand in marriage
The chronic bachelor called on her but she didn't respond
The problem is not more than ifa can resolve
The chronic bachelor call on her she doesn't respond the problems is not more than what the ancestors can resolve.
From this odu ifa we can see that the only approve sexual relationship in IFA is heterosexuality. There are others odu ifa wish speak on lesbianism .
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